Question
Salaam just wanted to say iv been really down aswell for the past 7 months now I lost my stillborn son about 6month ago me and my wife went thru this difficult time it was hard for us then about couple of month ago I lost my gran who I was really close to I know its life and we all are going to die some day but sometimes u start thinking Y Me then u just dont want to live no more that’s when the depression kicks in and you just dont want to do anything in life plus seeing my father going thru a financial difficulties tht makes things more worse well Allah knows best
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Response
As-Salaamun ‘Alaikum – peace be with you,
Thank you for reaching out to us, we know that it isn’t easy and we appreciate the confidence you have placed in us. May you be rewarded, Ameen.
“Indeed we belong to Allah, and Indeed to Him shall we return.” [Qur’an 2:156]
“Verily, with every hardship comes ease”[Qur’an 94:6]
This is the mindset through which every believer with faith can view a problem. It is important to remember that everything in life is a test from Allah (SWT). He does not burden any soul beyond what it can bear [Qur’an 2:286]. You have been given a test but also the strength to overcome this test.
Bereavement of loved ones has a natural negative effect on us as human beings as Allah (SWT) has created us as emotional beings. Therefore, accepting negative emotions are the first step to learning how to cope with them.
“Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves” [Qur’an 13:11]
It seems that your depression has stemmed from mourning of your lost loved ones which is a natural response to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and it is a very natural process that should not be blocked out. Depression can become a long lasting low mood disorder. It affects your ability to do everyday things, feel pleasure or take interest in activities. This means it can have an impact on your spirituality as you may struggle to pray and connect to God.
For this reason it is advisable to seek out an Islamic Counsellor – such as at the MCAPN directory or at Inspirited Minds.
Try to keep yourself engaged in activities to keep your mind distracted from negative thoughts. It may be a good idea to create a routine that you can work around every day that complements your lifestyle.
At Inspirited Minds, we have explored death and bereavement from both psychological and Islamic perspectives. You can find our articles here!
Trust in Allah (SWT), sabr (patience) and prayer should fill your heart with ease during these difficult times. Additionally, adopting this mindset can create hope, help stabilise your mindset and enable you to move forward towards healing.
These are just some humble suggestions. We sincerely hope and pray that one or more of them will be suitable to your circumstances and help create ease for you, In Shaa Allah (if Allah wills). If you would like to discuss anything else on your mind, we also offer more personalised counselling here at Inspirited Minds.
Please don’t hesitate to contact us if you need any further support.
Allah knows best and we hope this helps In Shaa Allah (if Allah wills).
Du’aa (supplication) always,
IM Support Team
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