Last week we were provided with a timeline of continuous student stress, right from the beginning of student life. So we know that not all stress is academia related, but a big chunk of it is. An even bigger chunk of stress is of what we perceive, rather than what actually is.
Perceived stress can sometimes be more detrimental to our health and our actions than the actual problem e.g. you feel super stressed because you are behind on a piece of work, thus you throw your all into workpiece A, resulting in falling behind on work piece B, C, D, E, FGHIJKLMNOPRSTUVWXYZ. Then you may be missing out on social events because you have so much work to catch up on, and then because you have so much work to do, you can’t think of what to do next. So of course you deserve a break, a pinch of not-a-good-idea self talk, combined with procrastination, mixed well with junk food, and baked until full of panic-attack worthy stress. A recipe for disaster.
Stop. Breathe. Step back. Let’s start again.
You feel super stressed because you are behind on a piece of work.
Okay, let’s use the handy tools that sir Lazarus and Dr Folkman have provided us with. Their theories around stress and coping included primary and secondary cognitive appraisals. Primary appraisals of this situations would be: “Is this important to me? What is the worst that could happen? What is at stake here?” – this can help you to evaluate your stress response and understand whether or not it is worth it (of course it is). Secondary appraisals of this situation would be: “Can I cope with this right now? What tools do I have to deal with this? What do I need to complete this task? Can I ask anyone for help?” – This should help you to take the next step. It can help you to look at what is right in front of you and take advantage of the tools you have around you to help you, and if you don’t have anything around, it can direct you to get what can help you. It also kicks you into believing that you have the ability to rise to this challenge.
It’s easy to believe that any kind of stress is negative, but there is always going to be a little stress as a student; it’s inevitable, you just have to learn when it’s helpful and when it’s hindering. A little stress is good, it’s what kicks your adrenaline into action when you’ve just started coursework the day before it’s due (everyone says they won’t, but you’ll do at least one all-nighter during your uni days).
Don’t forget, if you feel as if though you are not equipped with the right coping resources (i.e yourself) then you will perceive the stress as negative, unhelpful and there is nothing you can do to change it. However, if nipped in the bud, we can change the usual course of action and prevent things from getting worse. It’s important to remember that experiencing stress as a student is normal. You’re going through a lot of life changes, new environment, new people, new knowledge, new routine, and new intentions. Every stress is significant, but manageable.
Normalising stress is our mission this month, therefore if you are or have been a student and have a stressful story you would like to share, share it to benefit others by participating in #StoriesofStressedStudents on our social media. You can remain anonymous by emailing email@example.com too.
Keep your ears open for our student podcast, and eyes peeled for our very own stressed student handbook next week!